Oct 28 2011

Do You Know How to Deal with a Backstabber?

Category: FROM THE MIND OF MARC LACYadmin @ 6:58 am

Honestly, here is yet another topic where if you ask five people, you will get five different answers.  Some people will tell you to just cut them off.  Others will tell you to forgive them because “they know not what they do…” then walk off into the sunset as if they found a cure for Cancer.   It’s really case by case and there is no ultimate blanket solution for this.  HOWEVER, forgiving them is the first step.  But before we go any further, let us make sure we understand what forgiving is and also the power that is in forgiving.  Remember, when you forgive someone, that does not mean you have to be in their face smiling.  It also does not mean that you are championing what they do or what they stand for.  How is there power in forgiving?  When you forgive someone, you set yourself free.  You release the hold they have on you. 

Ready to take it a step further?  Okay, in dealing with the backstabber specifically, you have to really analyze the situation.  Are you both in the same circle and cross the same paths often?  Do you only come into contact with them every now and then?  Did they REALLY stab you in the back?  Or did someone just say it to start something up and/or keep it going? 

Like I said before, there is no ultimate blanket solution that EVERY person can apply and witness a quick turn-around.  HOWEVER, try forgiving them and think of it as SETTING YOURSELF FREE.  Do it for you, and not for them.  But again, only a fool would continuously place themselves in the line of fire of a known backstabber.  Forgive and forgo!  Do not try and test your faith by placing yourself directly in the line of fire.  That is certainly not what faith is here for. 

Be smart, be patient, and be faithful.

You have just read the mind of Marc Lacy.

Have a pleasant day.

Oct 16 2011


Category: FROM THE MIND OF MARC LACYadmin @ 10:07 am

Genesis: 1929 Exodus: 1968, living legacy is no longer theoretical or hypothetical. Living legacy does not absolve the present populous of the responsibility of continued vigilance, efforts, and dedication. Today is a day of serious reflection, celebration, and reaffirmed commitments. Today is a day on which my honor, dignity, and pride are elevated and ar…e scraping the edges of the atmosphere. Today is “the” day on which our friend, our brother, my fraternity brother Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. will be honored via the memorial that was erected in his likeness.

You have just read the mind of Marc Lacy.

Enjoy your day!

Oct 01 2011

In Principle/In Practice

Category: FROM THE MIND OF MARC LACYadmin @ 2:21 pm

Before you indulge in this blog today, I will go ahead and beg for your pardon in advance for my frank speak here.  Now I know I am speaking about what many people are already thinking; but may not necessarily be processing or saying.  As human beings, for the most part, we are taught to do what is right or learn what is right.  Of course knowledge and execution are in two completely different solar systems.  With that said, allow me to pick your brain for a moment. What is a common phrase mentioned by public speakers, preachers, coaches, parents, and leaders?  Need help remembering?  Allow me to assist.  How about, “We’re all in this together.”  Or better yet, “We’re all God’s children.”  And finally, “We need to love everybody like we love ourselves.”  If I wrote a book on principles, you can rest assured that the aforementioned phrases among others, would be plastered all over the publication.  Better yet, I would have the reader swooning as examples would be applied via testimony or maybe through a short story or something.  Words and principle have been united in Holy Matrimony and well NEVER, EVER witness divorce.  I could turn words into prostitutes and make you the John instantaneously; because it was you who gave the “buy in” to what you read.  Okay, my whole point in saying this is not to boast; but to illustrate how what we read and hear can paint a picture of reality.  But yet what we practice may not line up with what we read and hear; yet and still we tend to hear the same thing over and practice the same thing over (different than what we heard) and still feel we are okay.  Don’t get me wrong, I am the LAST person who needs to judge anyone; but I can see clearly just like the next person who chooses to recognize truth.  WHY AM I SAYING ALL OF THIS?  Well, it just makes me wonder how people think “it is supposed to be.”  Because we HEAR We’re all God’s children, We’re all in this together, We’re supposed to love everyone like we love ourselves, yet we go to different churches, support different religions, roll with different cliques, join different organizations, attend different functions, like different people, highlight different laws, emphasize different verses/books of The Bible, and support whatever alternative lifestyle we desire. 

 Will people EVER look at practice on the same level as principle?  I personally do not think so because we are taught to verbally express the correct principle in the proper setting; but when it comes to practice, habitually, we are satisfied with just letting the chips fall where they may.

You have just read the mind of Marc Lacy.

Enjoy your day!

Sep 29 2011

Too Many Dreamers/Too Few Do-ers

Category: FROM THE MIND OF MARC LACYadmin @ 8:27 am

We often encourage the youth to dream and dream big.  Usually the encouragement is concluded with a statement like, “Never let anyone take away your dream.”  Many parents and grown-ups marvel at the fact that their children want to be this or aspire to be that.  It is then a bigger story when the child’s dreams are conveyed to co-workers and other grown-ups via the parents.  There is nothing wrong with this.  As a matter of fact, it is as typical as clouds in the sky, when it is raining.  HOWEVER, I’m wondering if anyone is considering indoctrinating the dreamer on WAKING UP to do the WORK that is needed in order to fulfill the dream?  Is anyone interested in showing kids that there is no substitute for hard work and elbow grease?  Are we so drawn into “I want better for my kids, than I had” that we are content with spoiling first, then thinking later? 

Don’t get me wrong.  It is a wonderful thing to take our youth to ballgames, concerts, banquets, movies, and other place where they can see high paid professionals doing their thing in their respective field of interest. BUT, an equal amount of time needs to be spent in the gym, lab, office or wherever one can go through intense preparation in order to POSITION themselves for success.  In essence, if you are going to show them a fancy crib, show them how to either earn it, or build it from scratch.  It is as simple as that.

You have just read the mind of Marc Lacy.

Have a pleasant day!

Jun 21 2011

Passion with no Governing

Category: FROM THE MIND OF MARC LACYadmin @ 8:51 am

Have you ever met someone so passionate that they cannot even see straight?  We all know them and as nerve-racking as they can be, we still have a desire to be in their corner because they are so passionate in a time where many people lack it.  Immense drive, determination, and spirit earmark that person who is fueled heavily by passion.  The aforementioned are wonderful traits that really cannot be taught.  HOWEVER, anytime some logic is needed; but is not there, it won’t take very long for things to go awry.  If you are in a business, and there are moving parts involved, you cannot avoid logistics.  Even if you choose to shield yourself from business realities and hide deeply within your passion, things are still falling apart; but you’re just not allowing yourself to see them fall apart.  There’s nothing wrong with passion providing a temporary escape from reality; but you cannot really escape reality unless you’re on some sort of drugs – and that escape is temporary. 

When it comes to a person who operates via sheer passion, we do love them, but it is challenging at times.  Extremely passionate people are known for not listening to others advice, especially if the advisor is a technical or a business person.  Next thing you know, tensions run high as the friendship becomes strained or damaged.  It is almost like the “starving artist” syndrome in which logic gets locked outside so that it cannot interfere with king passion inside. 

Passion Overboard is an issue that many have dealt with for centuries.  And based on current happenings, it does not look like things will change anytime soon.  The best way to deal with someone who is passion first…just be yourself and take it case by case.  Don’t forget to remain prayerful and to be patient!

You have just read the mind of Marc Lacy.  Enjoy your day!

Jun 18 2011

Lost in Translation

Category: FROM THE MIND OF MARC LACYadmin @ 10:25 am

So many of us have learned the hard way that email communication is NOT the same as having a basic face to face conversation.  Moods, tones, and angles can be very difficult to pick up on and digest via electrons.  Misinterpretations are VERY EASY to come by.  Next thing you know, you have offended someone and you did not even know it.  Then when you see them, you cannot figure out why the negative energy.  You ask, and they’re mum.  Then some time down the road they finally come clean with how and why they feel the way they feel. 

Now I’m no e-communication genius or anything of the sort; but I have learned that when we’re quick to convey a point on the email or text, we’re merely typing out some words as swiftly as possible in response to something.  When this occurs, we may not be quick to process how our message will be received.  We’re not taking into account that all-caps and exclamation points and other various symbols can easily strike a nerve when they pop up on a receiving Blackberry, Iphone, or laptop screen.  But all it takes is one good time getting burned and we should learn our lesson right?  Well, HOW SOON WE FORGET.  It may actually take a couple of times. 

All in all, in my opinion, if you take writing seriously, then consider email/text a form of writing.  Not only should a spellcheck be applied; but also check for tone, energy, and possible “come off.”  And NO the other person should NOT be used to how you communicate because they are NOT you. 

Do not let your true message get lost in translation.

You have just read the mind of Marc Lacy…Enjoy your day!

Jun 11 2011

PEOPLE: Can you do With or Without Them?

Category: FROM THE MIND OF MARC LACYadmin @ 5:59 am

I do not care how wise, conditioned, or saved you may be, people are going to work your nerves to the point at which you want to launch yourself off to another planet and live with aliens.  AND if you are a “high striver” the aforementioned is only going to be amplified.  Why do I say this?  Simple…the more you strive, the more people you will come across in different capacities.  All it takes is for one person to be late, not deliver, or fail to adhere to a contract and thus another huge obstacle is created.  But one of the funniest things in life, is your recognition of the fact that just about everyone in your life who has gotten under skin, has assisted you in some way or shape.  Isn’t that amazing?  Regardless of anyones  flaws, they still play a significant capacity in life.  Although it is hard to see someones worth when you are angry at them, they have had the same struggle when you, by some crazy chance, made them angry as well.  So, I say again…PEOPLE:  Can you do with or without them?  Only you can decide this; but at the end of the day, I am confident that you will say, you need them!

You have just read the mind of Marc Lacy…have a great day!

Jun 10 2011

Overnite Cyber-sation

Category: FROM THE MIND OF MARC LACYadmin @ 12:20 pm

I for one am a proponent of advancement, be it on the personal or business side of the house.  When someone succeeds after having worked hard and executed things appropriately, I am the first one to cheer for them.  HOWEVER, in this day and age of the social network takeover (and yes, I am also a supporter of social networking and its causes), simple fundamentals of business and pouring sweat equity into what you do, seem to be lacking.  I say this because you have people out there that call themselves having a product or body of work; but they have NEVER researched business plan development or studied marketing strategies.  Not saying one has to be well versed in the aforementioned; but doggone…where is the limit?  I mean, you have an idea, you establish an online presence via various social networks, acquire a few followers, and BAM!  You are an instant star without trials and tribulations.  W-R-O-N-G!!!  If you do not make the necessary sacrifices, you will not get to where you really need to go…BOTTOM LINE.

Now please do not get me wrong.  I am not knocking anyone’s hustle or intentions.  BUT, if you are not cognizant of what basic hard work and basic economics are, your online gimmick is going to yield gimmick dollars. 

You have just read the mind of Marc Lacy…Enjoy your day!

Jun 09 2011

Wherever “There” is…

Category: FROM THE MIND OF MARC LACYadmin @ 8:38 am

Where the heck is “there?”  You don’t know do you?  Have you ever received a postcard from someone who’s made it there?  Okay, for you CONCLUSIONISTS, I’m not referring to Heaven so lighten up.  Have they ever tweeted or texted from there?  Many of us go 100mph in an effort to make it to a place that we have no clue about.  We exert ourselves to no end in an valiant quest  to get to the end…like we know what the end entails.  WHY AM I SAYING ALL OF THIS?  Very simple…in my aggressive jaunt down this path we call life, I’ve learned the hard way that the destination is indeed the journey.   In my humble opinion, God grants us a victory every time we have the opportunity to step onto the field of play, and grind it out for another day.  To me, wisdom teaches us that our main objective should be finding a way to stay on the battlefield, and NOT to finish the war.  Because as long as you and I are breathing, the war will NOT be over.  Sometimes staying on the battlefield can be confusing or deceiving based on the obstacles incurred.  Learn to enjoy a “daily” victory while not getting caught up in making it “there…” again, wherever there is.

You have just read the mind of Marc Lacy…enjoy your day!

Jun 08 2011

Spoken Word Loses a Hero May 29th, 2011

Category: EVENT EDITORIALSadmin @ 2:01 pm

Will “Da Real One” Bell, HBO Def Poet, Slam Champion, Owner of Miami’s Famed Literary Cafe, and South Florida spoken word pioneer, lost his life to gunfire from lost souls who senselessly decided they were going to show how tough they were…or how tough they “thought” they were.
Will was so many things to so many people.  His spirit was so positive and strong.  He was walking inspiration.  Whenever one entered the literary cafe they felt right at home because Will, in his humble/comedic fashion set the scene nicely as he hosted a plethora of wonderful shows.

Rest in peace my friend…your legend will NEVER die.

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